“Success is being comfortable with yourself regardless of what’s going on around you”
I read this somewhere and for the life of me can’t remember where so sorry there is no acknowledgement.
This means a lot to me as it has been one of the stories representing my journey through life. It has been a hard one for me and such a struggle for me to take it in and really see that it is a truth for me – if not, for you!!
Success
Success is just a word and yet the world has imposed all sorts of meanings on it and I am guilty of taking them on and measuring myself against them. I heard, and saw, that I had to –
Have money
Have an expensive car
Have a large house
Be ‘top of the tree’
Be slim, trim and beautiful
Know all the ‘right’ people
Speak as though you were totally right on everything
Be confident regardless
Be invited to all the ‘in’ events
Wear the ‘right’ clothes
And so on ……………You insert your one here
Nobody ever mentioned that there is a longing in us (me and you)to be fully seen as we are, to be loved as we are, and to be accepted just as we are. In other words – to be ourselves!!
In my opinion, this is what success is all about – no more, no less.
Nobody tells us this in a way that can be believed until we believe it ourselves. This is such a long journey to make and some don’t do it for whatever reason and so may die yearning to be a success!!
They may still have the feeling inside of ‘there must be something wrong with me’ or even the blame of never quite making ‘it’.
Success for me is being able to love yourself with all your imperfections as well as all that is simply great about you. It is about being able to say to the world –
I am just fine with being me
You see it is fine not to be perfect and not to have to hide ourselves behind the various masks we show the world. It is such a weight lifted from your shoulders when you are able to say – I love this woman I see in the mirror!
I am not saying that it is easy as it means that our vulnerability and our strength can be seen by all and this can mean that some will move on to those who have all the trappings of success as it is normally held.
I want you to love being you in the fullness of you – your creativity, your warmth, your presence, your humour and your anger, your not knowing, your tears and your feistiness.
Bring that rainbow of colours into your life and enjoy being you with, if not a smile on your face, then a smile inside which will cause you to smile on the outside.
Be Comfortable with Yourself
Look forward to hearing from you what success means for you.
I sit alongside women who want to be comfortable with themselves, to be themselves and come from inner confidence so they are not afraid of being found out as a fraud.
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This is so true – everyone should read it. And why? so that they don’t have unrealistic expectations of themselves or of others.
I’ve shared this on Twitter, G+ and will post it in an FB group I belong to (2,000+ members).
Thank you for this post, Irene. It is such a shame from such a young age we have our uniqueness and confidence knocked out of us, to the point where we are no longer able to define who we are and worse still enjoy our own company. Thank you for the reminder, that we will only ever spend our whole life with ourselves, so we had better make the most of it!
Thank you for all the sharing, Gillian, and I love your comments xx
Thank you, Kay, for your comments which are so true and I know that you are definitely making the most of enjoying life xxx