‘I Don’t Care’

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Wake-up Call

You may or may not know that I wrote a book called ‘I Don’t Care – the Art of Divine Indifference’ – well I did! Anyway, I am bringing it up here in this blog as I see it as a wake-up call to all of you who know in your hearts that life is slowly (or even quickly) passing you by.

As a psychologist, I have worked with countless women who have spent, it seems, most of their life caring for others in one form or another, and fulfilling roles that have somehow been taken on by them  – and not always of their choosing.   They have then all but forgotten what it is that truly inspires and motivates them. Or even who they are any more!!   Am I speaking to you?  Or you may be able to relate to what I’m next going to say.

The Caged Tiger

Do you ever feel that you have become trapped in a prison of routine and the mundane?

That you are simply going through the motions and not fully present to yourself or life?

If you have, as I have, then you will know of what I named my ‘caged tiger’.   This was the part of me that paced up and down in my inner cage, or slept, or on the odd occasion, roared above and beyond whatever it was that was causing my need to be angry and lash out with my tongue at all and sundry.   Not a pretty sight, I can assure you!!

Symptoms

For me, the symptoms of your ‘caged tiger’ are:

Dis-ease

Unhappiness

Depression

Obesity

Alcohol, drugs, shopping addictions

You may also often be anxious, angry, have high expectations and be controlling.

Your Cage

Your cage may be beautifully appointed and comfortable and yet it’s confined you and your dreams.   You find yourself more and more re-arranging, buying, changing the cage in every way possible, or even the opposite, have no interest in it at all.   And yet it is a self-imposed cage.  Your way out is hidden by your fear of the unknown, fear of what others might think of you and a misplaced sense of how you are supposed to be!!

What to do

It is so simple and yet so hard, I can assure you as I have been there!!

It’s about not allowing your inner critic – the one that’s always saying ‘You should, you ought, you must’ to be in charge any more.

It’s about not allowing your need to be included, loved, thought well of ………………. (you can add yours as these were mine) to take over.

It is about you giving yourself the time to listen to YOU, to have patience with YOU, to love YOU enough to step across the threshold of your cage and let your ‘inner tiger’ have space to breathe, be spontaneous, attempt new things, make mistakes and most of all in your own way  ‘ROAR’.

Connection

It takes great courage to say, ‘I don’t care’ and ‘No’ and yet, when you are able to allow this out, it releases a huge amount of energy for you to put to good use in whatever way you choose to do so.

You may find it daunting and yet it may not be a ‘ROAR’.    It can be as simple as choosing to say, ‘Who cares if I decide to dance or sing my heart out or go back to study or whatever instead of doing the housework?  This is ME time and I’m giving myself this pleasure’.

How radical is that?  Of course it’s not and you will be taking steps towards liberating your ‘Tiger’.  You then have a choice about caring from a place of love and not of duty.

You will find that you are able to re-connect with the self you thought had all but disappeared and then you can get to know her again.  You can get back in touch with your deeper passions and motivations as well.

So I’m encouraging you to listen to that roar of your caged tiger, to use its energy and give yourself the freedom to be more visible to yourself and others.

Let me know how you get on.

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