Have you ever held onto old ideas, beliefs, habits, jobs – even relationships, so much so that you became stuck? I know that I have time and time again, and then have gone into a kind of shock when I see the changes that have happened without me being aware of them. And also when others have pointed things out to me that I simply didn’t notice.
I hadn’t really accepted that CHANGE happens whether I tried to stop it or not. Sometimes I’ve felt that I’m doing battle in a paper bag and I end up exhausted because I’m actually battling with myself and not anyone or anything else. Other times I have wanted to pull the duvet cover over my head and for life to just go away. AND then there is that wonderful moment when change is exciting and so full of life (even if it is in a quiet way).
What I’ve realised is that when you are attached to your expectations of things, people or places, you are actually saying NO to life. You are not accepting them as they are, as always your expectations of how they ‘should be’ get in the way.
When you are truly able to accept things, people or places as they are, and not through the eyes of how you want or expect them to be then your inner dissatisfaction and confusion begins to wane and you are more available to them and therefore life.
Life is about going with, choosing, experiencing, letting go and most of all learning from it all. It’s about being open to experience life – the good, the bad and the ‘I don’t care’ parts. When you have true awareness that life changes – goes round in circles and has ups and downs whether we want it to or not – then you can roll with the punches as is said.
We all hold on tightly at different times in our life simply because we are afraid of change – the new – to step outside of our comfort zone. And yet this can be a time to know yourself all over again and be willing to make mistakes, get it right and most of realise that only you have control over your thoughts and feelings and how they can be changed for the better.
As nothing in this world is permanent, are you ready to put your hands up for change?
Let me know – love to hear from you.
