ARE YOU INCLUDING YOU?
Over many years, I have heard from women (and I include myself in here), that somehow ‘ I am not good enough – found wanting – won’t ever reach that pinnacle of acceptance of myself’.
It is not a good place to be and again I know it from my own experience! There could be a good reason(s) as to why you feel bad about yourself. You have guilt or regrets from your past – you have shame or embarrassment again from the past. Oh so many things, people, places, scenes are probably running through your head at the moment and your body might be telling you where you have stored these memories.
Overwhelm
These thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations come in more when we are overwhelmed so I’m asking you –
Are you ensuring you give yourself some ‘Me’ time?
Are you supporting this ‘Me’ to have the time?
When and where are you laughing?
Had a belly laugh lately?
Too busy going hither and thither?
You see when you start paying attention to yourself, you’ll notice when you allow yourself to get overwhelmed and don’t enjoy things.
Possible build up
As women (partners, mothers, carers or business women or all of these), we are often generous with ourselves, and do things for others both because we have good hearts and want an easy life. If you’re like me, you probably don’t even see this until one day you snap over something minor.
It’s not that it’s wrong to take care of our children when young, helping out colleagues, friends and family when you see what needs done. No, it’s when you feel you have no choice and it’s the build up of seemingly being at everyone’s beck and call. This then causes the swallowing back of irritation or anger at someone or something and the feeling of injustice of it all.
Generally, most of us can handle this build-up in various ways – exercise, dancing, singing, reading …………..but if there is an accumulation over many years, it can cause you to explode over something minor as I said above. Why? Because you’ve allowed yourself to be taken over by the world around you. You’ve allowed yourself to disappear in the equation.
Then comes in the shame and embarrassment or going into victim and blame and all those other things we are familiar with!! You will know what you do as I am sure you will have experienced this build up in the past or even now.
Inclusion
Our connection with the world has to change at each developmental stage as you bring in more awareness. When you feel overwhelmed, stop, make the time for you. Remember you don’t have to strive to be perfect ….whatever that is. I can assure you that nobody is, as we are all having to cope with living life.
I would like you to simply breathe in, acknowledge and be grateful for what you have – who and what is in your life – and then make a commitment to include YOU in there too!!
I’d love to hear from you on how you handle or handled this build up in your life.
It’d be great if you gave yourself some ‘ME’ time by coming along to my 2 Day Workshop on 16th & 17th April at Pontlands Park Hotel, Great Baddow, Essex, so you can re-connect with yourself again.
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