Do you know that, even if we feel that if we allow ourselves to cry and will never stop, it is not true?
I know this for a fact from my own personal experience, and also from my professional experience – doing individual and group work, teaching, training, supervising .
You will stop crying
Quickly or eventually, your tears will stop. You will stop crying. You have taken the pressure off you. Yes, just like a pressure cooker lets off steam, you will be letting them out.
You will feel more at peace with yourself because you have allowed out the immediate pain of what’s perhaps just happened, and all the years of holding back your tears. These will have built up for most of us, from childhood.
In control of our Body and Mind
Again for most of us, we so try to understand, to be in control of our body and mind, and sometimes we are forced back on ourselves in order to face our reality. We need to take time out and ‘be’ before we can re-engage with life again.
What is happening?
It may be a sign that you are empty and disconnected from yourself. At least, I know for me that this is what it means.
And it may be that you need to re-engage with yourself at a deep emotional, psychological and spiritual level.
Most have buried their grief, their pain inside. And it is this that is crying out to be heard – through these tears we keep pushing down and away.
Healing
In my opinion, we are also crying about the fact of our life having had meaning. I remember saying to my friend and colleague, Murray Morison, whilst sobbing profusely, ‘I don’t know if I have been part of or touched others’ lives.’
What I was actually saying was, ‘Will anyone remember me? Have I made a difference?’
As more of us acknowledge our need to know that we have touched people’s lives in some way, we can be more at peace with ourselves. This is the healing we seek.
Passions of your Youth
It is never too late to re-connect with the passions of your youth! I want you to engage in life from this place. You will be coming from the depths of you and showing up and being visible.
I so look forward to hearing how your Lust for Life will be expressed.
Interesting post Irene. I guess there’s a lot of truth in the saying “All cried out”.
Yes, Sarah, because then we can breathe deeply and move on (and here’s what you don’t want!) xx
Really interesting Irene. Must admit to being a “holder inner”. Many years ago in a bad situation someone close to me said they didn’t understand why I didn’t cry and I said in reply “feel the tears but don’t let them fall”. I have always found it easier dealing with sadness that way. Perhaps in future I should just let it all go 🙂
I’m sure you will – the flood gates will open unexpectedly. Love Irene xx
At some time everyone faces a choice of going under or pushing through. My mum said to me once when I was going through a difficult time that if I was crying for myself I should stop it because feeling sorry for myself wasn’t a good enough reason to cry. I sort of agreed with her and stopped. Lust For Life is a great song, as is Cock-Eyed Optimist.
Hi Judy, So true and I love your Cock-Eyed Optimist -thanks for commenting xx