The Art of Dying

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The Art of Dying

 

By being who you are, encourages others to say a deeper ‘Yes’ to that quiet ordinariness in you that lies just behind your postures of being someone special!!

 

We’ve just had our Easter weekend here in the U.K., and so I know my blog is appropriate as however desperate and desolate we, and the world appears, human beings are resilient.  My blog today is one of the subjects that is not normally talked about – perhaps only in a group or with a therapist, and I would like to address it with you today.

 

Lack of Meaning

 

I see and hear so much of having no meaning in life whether it is said overtly or covertly.   Victor Frankl (a Psychologist and Psychotherapist) called the feeling of emptiness, meaningless or purposelessness, the “existential vacuum”.      This often results from a lack of connection to yourself and something larger than yourself.

 

The Inner Kill

 

It has been said that most of us can struggle with the “inner kill” – the art of dying without knowing it!     You can feel stuck in a kind of vocational quicksand – not challenged by meaningless tasks.

 

It seems like you are – stuck in ‘can’t go or stay’.  There is no compelling reason to get up in the morning.   Nothing is growing or changing.    Life continues at the same petty pace day in, day out.  In this place, your talents and gifts are sleeping.

 

You are quite simply bored with yourself and your life.   You are not living – only existing!   It’s a living death to be here!  This is the art of dying!!

 

No wonder there is so much mental ill-health and addictions around nowadays, as we search for meaning and connection with ourselves.

 

Fear

 

I am sure you know what stops you from choosing and taking action, and being visible to yourself and the world.    It is fear.   It is fear of failure, of success, of rejection, of disappointment or even unconscious fears you don’t even know you have! ! And even of finding out that your life is meaningless – has no purpose!!

 

My Life wasn’t supposed to turn out like this!

 

What frees you is having the courage to deal with your inner life.   It doesn’t mean that you’re not afraid – it means, in spite of your fear, you do it anyway.  And courage also means coming from your heart.    It’s the willingness to stop, face yourself and break through the limitations and pretences you (and others) have put on you, and take action for the greater good.    

 

I have said myself, and hear many others say, ‘My Life wasn’t supposed to turn out like this!!’   This is when you need to stop and have the courage to allow yourself to grieve for what might have been.   Then you truly accept you and life as it is, and you embrace the life you have in the spectrum of its rainbow of colours.  

 

If you are unable to do this by yourself perhaps by writing in your journal, I would suggest that you find someone or some people you trust and who can support you to find courage to choose faith over fear –  faith in yourself, in others and in life.   So don’t play small, safe or heed that voice that says “What’s the point so carry on as usual”.   It is about going on your own spiritual journey and be the person you are – ordinary and extraordinary.

 

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