STRIVING TO BE ‘THE STAR’

This is one of my many blogs in different forms on being Ordinary and Extraordinary as I think it is important for us all to be able to hold this fact so I’m waving the flag on your (and my)behalf once more.

Pressure of Striving

You see, in my opinion, so many of us are striving to be that Extraordinary Woman – to be one of the ones who are seen as The Stars in their fields – whether Media, the Arts, Sports, Academia , the Neighbourhood ………..  Those women who stand out, are head and shoulders above everyone else and we wish we knew how they do it and want to be them!!

Average or Ordinary

A lot of women are afraid to accept that they are average or ordinary.    Why?  Because if you do that then there can be the belief that you will have to acknowledge that you never will be one of The Stars.  You will never have made it!!   And this can lead even ultimately to what is the point of you being here on Earth!   What have you achieved in simply being you??

Reflection

That is something for you to reflect on.   In my opinion, you will have achieved the fact that you give of yourself by going about your daily (and sometimes mundane)business knowing that life is crazy and even painful at times as well as contains unexpected miracles of beauty, joy, sharing and laughter.   Life isn’t ordinary as it has everything that you need to accomplish (whatever it is you want to accomplish or not) with you being ordinary.  You don’t have to be The Star to do this.

You may simply have forgotten, or even don’t know what a wealth of experience and knowledge you bring to this life by being fully alive and that means with all your natural abilities and qualities.

I am at the stage in my life (and perhaps this is a natural ageing process) where I can accept that I am Ordinary and there are moments when I can consider that I am Extraordinary.    These moments don’t last for all that long externally and they can feed me internally.   You see, this helps me to relax and know that I am not going to be the ‘next big thing since sliced bread’ as is said here in the U.K.

I no longer have to go about striving to be noticed by others.  My feeling of grandiosity can abate.  I can simply be me going about my daily business of being Ordinary, and sometimes I may do or say or make or meet or write something that someone might find Extraordinary.

I can be free to be the Best that I can Be regardless of the comparison with others or the pressure I have put on myself to be The Star.  What a Relief!!

So how would it be for you to care for your ordinary moments by being the person you truly wish to be regardless of whatever you are doing, no matter who you are – and watch the everyday miracles take root, blossom and become extraordinary.

Remember you are extraordinary because you are unique – there is only one of you!!

Go Well x

PS  Those tuning in for the next part of my psychological blogs will have to wait as I have not had my Women’s Business Lunch with a Psychological Twist yet and will be using one of my tools and techniques then.  You can join in the Virtual Lunch after that!!