Who Doesn’t Suffer From Self-Doubt?
Before I get to the 12 Tips To Help You With Self-Doubt, I want to ‘speak’ with you first. Those who don’t want to hear me then simply scroll down to them!
I don’t know about you but do you know anyone who doesn’t suffer from self-doubt now, or in the past? I have and still do on occasion so I am very much into this area in my work with people as I know that my pain and distress around this enables me to have deeper empathy with others.
One of my two Role Models, Dame Helen Mirren, also owns that she does too and that is why I so admire her for her honesty. If she can still speak out about her self-doubt with all she has done and been in life, then it is fine by me to own mine.
The Imposter Syndrome
My speciality in my work has been about The Imposter Syndrome and all the masks we wear. In my opinion, this is so that our vulnerability can be hidden and we can’t be found out as a fraud – ‘You are not who you say you are!’
Well, what I want to say to you is don’t be so hard on yourself and start letting go of self-judgement and criticism. A good way to begin is simply to acknowledge those feelings of failure, shame or embarrassment to yourself or to someone you trust as, even if it is just for a short while, you’ll have stopped that habitual pattern. It would be great if you could tell yourself that “I’m doing the best I can today and that is enough” each time you hear you beating yourself up. And remember my new mantra – Stop It, Fuck It and Thank You!
If nothing else, it could bring a smile to your face.
I will finish with this saying, and apologies as can’t remember where it came from –
‘BY BEING WHO WE ARE ENCOURAGES OTHERS TO SAY A DEEPER YES TO THE QUIET ORDINARINESS IN US THAT LIES JUST BEHIND OUR POSTURES OF BEING SOMEONE SPECIAL’.
BE YOURSELF.
THE 12 TIPS TO HELP YOURSELF
WITH SELF-DOUBT
- Take baby steps when dealing with your ‘breaking through the glass ceiling’ and then ‘jump’
- Know that it is fine to experience some form of fear or anxiety so acknowledge that
- Know that fear and excitement are two sides of the same coin
- Keep deep breathing when receiving cutting edge feedback – it does not mean that you are a failure
- Write down all your achievements – small and large – over the course of your life. You will be surprised
- Remember ‘You are Not a Fraud’ – ‘You are feeling like a Fraud’
- Own your vulnerability first and then decide on how you want to deal with it
- Stop and allow in praise and applause whenever you break through your own glass ceiling or limitations
- YOU make the decision to do or not do whatever it is
- Look in the mirror and tell yourself – ‘I SEE AND AM PROUD OF YOU’
- Have FAITH in YOURSELF
- Work with an experienced Coach in this area – ME
I’d love you to join my new Facebook Group SIFITY (Stop It, Fuck It, Thank You). Have a look as it will have just the kind of women you want to be alongside, and you may know others who will benefit too.
